Post By – Samantha Periard
The more you have, the more you can give. I remember when I was 12 years old my aunt handed me $100 for my birthday. I tried to decline the money, but I told her it was too much.
She looked at me with a firm look powered by kindness and generosity. She told me that when someone gives me something whether it be money or a compliment to accept it with grace and tact. She didn’t sugarcoat the fact that it was almost rude not to accept and that it takes away from the person trying to give you the gift if you decline.
I felt guilty about that, so I accepted the money, and bought a Hilary Duff CD and probably a bunch of candy. Haha. After all, isn’t one of the pleasures of gift giving the satisfaction of knowing what you have given has added to their life?
I’m telling you this story because this wasn’t the end all be all for my being able to receive such generous offerings. Receiving was and sometimes still is hard.
As a society, we have been shown that to receive is to be selfish. To be accepting of large sums of money makes us greedy and materialistic. To allow ourselves to be showered with praise and compliment is conceded and self-centred. To dress up for school drop-off, to wear a dress, get your nails done, to have great hair and makeup for a seemingly normal day is… too much, too bold, too loud… You attract too much attention.
After all, someone could look at you, they could stare and worst of all they could offer you a generous compliment. The horror is to put yourself in a position of receiving.
We have been shown to be small. Be small in size and fit into the average sizing for clothing. Be an acceptable weight. Laugh a little quieter not to attract too much attention. Go to college instead of being a pop star, because that’s unrealistic and would cause way too much attention.
Be a lady, be a good girl. Fit into the box you were given, be quieter, be smaller, and sure as hell don’t make too much money, or you could be viewed as greedy and make others uncomfortable.
What if it was GOOD, to receive more? What if by you being rich, you could fill the pockets of others? What if by doing your hair for school drop off you inspire another mother in her depressive slump to feel like herself again? What if in your boldness, you become magnetic?
When my son was a year old, I investigated my drawers and looked in the mirror. I saw a new mother with her hair in a bun, bags under her eyes, and holes in her thrift store clothes that might I add… were inside out because #momlife lol.
I saw a much smaller woman. The bold, bright, light in my eyes looked dull. I was the smallest I had ever been. I stopped treating myself to the things I loved such as cake, curled hair, mascara, pedicures, new clothes, new shoes, and fun. I forced myself into the box of what I thought was successful motherhood.
Moms wear their hair up every day, don’t they? They skip showers, and they wear leggings and oversized tees. Most importantly they are trying to bounce back to their pre-baby weight… Aren’t they? So, I embodied it. All of it. I didn’t want to be that selfish mom who, heaven for freakin bid, did her hair. How could I take precious time away from this little potato baby I birthed out of my body? I stopped receiving them.
One day in the middle of an anxious meltdown in my undies on the kitchen floor, I realized I felt like a shell of myself. I sold myself out and was constantly giving away my resources. I realized by choosing the “selfless” path, I was losing myself.
By putting everyone including perceived expectations of society before what felt good to me, I gave everything I had away. I was burnt out and tapped out. Which created loneliness and lack in my life. I stopped receiving them together. Including enough food to properly sustain me. Friendships that once burned with fiery passion sailed away. The passion for fun had sizzled away and I felt completely unworthy of anything but the bare minimum.
But what good am I to my son, my husband, and the world if I am so lost, so turned off, that when I look in the mirror I can’t even recognize myself?
A little voice, call it my higher self spoke a whisper to me “Take your power back, be open to miracles and have fun along the way” This shift teaches us this: A whole new world unravels.
This shift in thinking will simply bring you back home to who you truly are. The abundant, magnetic, turned up and on version. Upon observation of who I was being when I sold myself out for the sake of motherhood, I realized by keeping myself small, I was doing a disservice to the world. If I could bring myself to a point where I was confident, taking up space and achieving something just for me, maybe, just maybe I could allow that power to ripple out.
I could allow that power to change the world. So, I did my hair, put on my mascara, and remembered who the hell I was.
Receiving becomes easier when you take your power back and decide that you are worthy of something more. That being small and dimming your light allows for more darkness. So, shine brighter, and remember that receiving is necessary because the more you have, the more you can give.
I believe on some level our hearts want to serve others. Whether it be world-changing ideas and teachings or raising kind humans. It all matters. What you do is just as important as what you are able to receive back. It will circle back and ripple out.
Absolutely nothing. Set your intentions, take your aligned action, be so grateful and then do nothing.
Have some fun, read a book for pleasure, and play outside with your kids. And lastly remind yourself of your own power, remind yourself how worthy you are of a great life. You are simply worthy because of the beating heart in your chest.
So, reader, I challenge you to tactfully accept the next compliment that comes your way or random money sent from the Universe from a random source. Expect miracles and step into your magnetism.
I challenge you to wear red lipstick, do your hair and allow the eyes to fall on you. And this my friend, is how you manifest anything.
About the Author – My name is Sam! I am a manifestation coach, speaker, and podcaster. I help you attract a life you love no matter how you got your start in life. As a mother and wife it’s important for me to be the change I wish to see in the world, and by never settling in life and love I believe we can change the world for the better. We need great people who are wealthy and thriving, I am here to help you harness your magic and become magnetic in your desires!
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Beautifully written! Did you write this?
Guten Tag Sam,
Vielen Dank für Ihre Frage. Ja, es sind meine Worte.
Very Insightful Post samantha💓
Receiving gifts from loved ones has amazing feeling on its own. I agree with your point that, more you have the more you give.
Thank you for sharing 💓
That’s amazing! I’m so glad it resonates!!! ♥️
You wrote the things really well. Receiving things specially by a women is always judgemental by the society because girls are always grow with a mentality that you have to always give to others whether it's related to serving to the family, growing their child. You mentioned a sentence that if we receive more and you become rich then you can fill the pocket of the other's. This is completely true because In our society there are many people who genuinely need help. We can only help those people when we do something.
And you did a great work .Keep doing 🥰🌸
I agree!!! This is SO true!! I felt like it if I had any moments that were just for me I was taking away from my family. But in reality the more we have the more we can give to everyone including the world. Thank you so much for your kind words, I receive them so deeply. I hope this helped you!
I can relate this story to “A gift of 10 Rupees”, at some extent.
However, This post is more open and detailed.
I appreciate the writer's perspective.
Thank you, Samantha.
Oh cool! I will have to check that story out! Thanks for sharing and thanks for reading!
Nice reminders to us all and wonderfully written Samantha! That's a compliment!! LOL
I am so happy it served you! Thank you for your kind words!
Great insight on how little thing matter and how feeling good to yourself can change your prospective in life.
Be kind towards other✌️
Kindness is everything! Being kind to yourself and others can seriously change the world. So glad you enjoyed the article. Thanks for reading!
So insightful Sam🙏
Thank you for sharing
Wow thank you so much. So glad you enjoyed it!
My pleasure 🌹🌹🌹
I've been told there are no coincidences. You are touching upon what I'm reading in a book. Thanks for making it all feel that much more right. Best wishes to you and your family.
That’s amazing! What book are you reading? And I definitely believe that there are no such thing as coincidence is too. You attracted this writing into your life in divine timing!
I've been told that too ~ and she's touching on my LIFE right now! 🤗
"Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill
LOVE That book! I read that when I first started my personal development journey! It’s so good! How are you liking it so far?!
LOVE That book!!!! I read that a few years ago. SO GOOD! How are you liking it so far?
New level is a game changing for me when i started music some people were thinking that am a joker so i had to do something that will also convince my fans that am serious with music so i had to do more better than my previous projects " Odi Wa Bondo.
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That’s great! Keep
Going!! ♥️
Thank you fam