I’m Sorry! isn’t the most disheartening word? The 5 letter word may hurt our EGO and makes us embarrass in front of the world at large, or humiliate us. Right?
As people always think saying sorry is a sign of embarrassment. But you know what? saying sorry isn’t only for apologies or wrongdoings. It is something more than that. I have experienced this 5 letter word “sorry” is more powerful than any other word. It is a magic wand that can build a relationship so impregnable and perhaps more powerful than Gorilla wood Glue.
Before going further I want to confess a bitter truth and an eye-opener event of my life when I realize the significance of the word “I’m Sorry”. Before the demise of my father, I had a war of words on a certain gibberish topic and for that, we didn’t talk to each other for a couple of days. And maybe because of my Ego, I didn’t want to take the first step to clear all misunderstandings between us. I want my father to do so.
But there is something deep inside me that was compelling me to apologize, putting my ego and frustration aside. And the time I realized my mistake it was already too late, that person was not with me anymore to whom I could say “I’m Sorry”. But that left the biggest guilt to think about for the rest of my life.
The problem doesn’t lie with the word “Sorry”, the problem lies with “EGO” (a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance), which is greater than anything around you. But Self respect is completely different from the Ego.
It’s the Ego that creates problems/issues in every relationship whether spouses, friends, Colleagues or it is not wrong if I say that even religions.
According to Sigmund Freud(an Australian neurologist), the ego is the psychological component of the personality that is represented by our conscious decision-making process, our ego is always determined by our behavior, it has three parts ID, Ego, Super Ego. let us have a brief explanation:-
As mentioned above, ego relates to our self-esteem and pride, it makes our self-respect Whereas Apologies or asking for forgiveness is a kind of guilt that demoralizes us and it feels like it is defaming us.
But I think no, there are a few other points that make the relationship stronger and help in increasing understanding.
Saying Sorry doesn’t mean that you are wrong, it only means that you value the person more than being right.
gaur gopal Das
If you really love someone, admire them from the deepest point of your heart. A little step of compromising with your Ego can save a beautiful relationship, and again like new flower blossoms after the autumn, your relationship will be filled with the fragrance of understanding. I wish I could understand this much early.
My father has given me a piece of advice that if you are wrong always be kind but if you are not you have to be more kind, don’t be too tough in life because a straight tree is always trimmed first but a bowed tree is always avoided because the feller assumes it worthless but in reality, the bowed tree which is filled with fruits not only save himself but also fills other life with joy and has welcomed by everyone.
Dear reader, If you get what I want to say then go ahead and try once the magical word of 5 letters “SORRY”. And yes don’t forget to put a smile on your face.
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Sorry Is As Sorry Does!
Indeed🙂. It's true
The person who learns the true meaning of sorry …. Can solve every problem of his life. .. well said Deepak…. SORRY is not just a word … But a magic that can save any relationship … Hope people can understand this👌👌👌
I understand your feelings shivi ,,hope whatever you are in search of ,will come soon😊
Very thoughtful post! Leaving aside our ego, if we could just ask sorry, many broken relationships would be mended!
Indeed, have you ever try this?
Yes. I practice this🙂👍
Hope this works
Yes Deepak.
I find one place where the major ego issues crop up, other than the workplace, is with one's partner.
My views on the same is here,
https://ramyasmusings.wordpress.com/2020/06/13/better-half-or-better-off/
Sure ,ramaya i would loved to go through it.
Sorry ramya due to word press down i couldn't be able to see your post but tomorrow surely i will go through it.
No problem 🙂
That's great🙂
Indeed sorry is a powerful word and a sign of strength and intelligence
Stay safe happy healthy and wealthy
Thankyou kanika🙂
Thanks for the enlightening post on Sorry and asking us all to follow these good principles.
Saying Sorry, contrary to what everyone says, is not to assuage the feelings of the hurt.
It, truly, releases the doer from the guilt, that he would carry if he didn’t admit.
Similarly, Pardon releases the person who pardons from the pangs of anger and despair.
The more we seek apology for our actions with unintended results and
The more we forgive others, we do ourselves a favour. It is a grand self service.
Lets do them more. Thanks once again deepak for the eye opening post.
I don’t know what to say,that’s very kind Doctor, as you said its cent percent true. The way you describe this is truly amazing. Hope more people will read this comment.
Dear Doctor, we have also such an informative post on our website It would be great if you do visit them. Hope you will like it.
I surely will deepak.
My pleasure
(forgive me, Austrian 😉)
Its seems an apology to someone. And I hope you get that.
I apologize for the correction in public ... on Freud's nationality: he was not Australian, but Austrian 🙂
It's completely okay🙂, did you love the post?
yes, i loved it. 🙂
Apologizing is a dizziness, an explosion towards the other, recognizing that he is important. When an apology is accepted, there is nothing more beautiful, the welcome becomes mutual. 🙂
But that only works if both side knows how to uphold the journey of relationship. I guess
it works if there are other certain elements. If the apologetic repeats the same attitude, the excuses gradually lose value and if the one who accepts the excuses does not really accept them and maintains a dark corner of recrimination within himself, he does not recognize a true value to the excuses. But a relationship is a place where you experiment and make mistakes. The intensity of the feeling helps, the trust, the body approach and even the dialogue (not meant as a battlefield), but that's just my opinion :-)
I know all this but I was just saying that sometimes people are very ignorant towards the value of person.
Always one sided efforts are worthless. It makes you weak and left nothing. Even experiments doesn't work here.
if you talk about unilateral efforts I think of unrequited love, otherwise there is no recognition of those of others, then I think about what can give this impression and I wonder what the desire is to be made explicit. People are different from each other.
Well said 🙂🙂
:-) :-)
Thank you, Deepak, for a thought-provoking post on an important topic.
I had an interesting exchange talking on the phone with my son the other day. When he recounted an unfortunate experience he had, I said I was sorry. He asked me why I was apologizing when I didn't have anything to do with it. I explained that saying you are sorry can also simply mean that you empathize.
When I read your post, it occurred to me that apologies have empathy as a necessary component.
All the best! Cheryl :)
Dear cheryl, it is a good point you have mentioned, saying sorry is also can be a empathy and can give relief to opponent and i hope your son got that point..
Thanks for being with us..
Deepak
Though it may be difficult to say; I’m sorry, it’s important.
Lovely post!
Yaaa its important,, if you practice, its an easy tasks. It’s not that difficult😉.. Moreover you can put a smile on your face while saying that. It'll become much more easy.
Cheers..
Practice makes perfect!
We get better at whatever we do over and over again.
Thank you so much.
Most welcome
No dear not at all a little bit practice a day;"i m sorry" is a solution of all the problems,,
Try it.....
Thanks 😊
Thank you so much.
I’ll give it a try.
😊
◇ - Diamond Hard - ◇
◇ The word doesn't matter and is often used as an excuse to continue bad behaviour if permitted and allowed; an Authentic Apology is when We Change The Way We THINK!!! TALK!!! and BEHAVE!!! especially without Saying "Sorry"
◇ - Diamond Hard - ◇
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True words.
Overall Apologies isn’t everything.
Everyone has different perspective.
Indeed, but the word with realization is the best measure to make someone happy and apologize,,because opponent will also feel relaxed that you admit your mistake.
I always say sorry when I’ve been in the wrong or when I’ve upset someone. I genuinely say sorry, telling the person that I’m sorry for hurting their feelings and that it was never my intention to upset them.
It makes me feel better for doing it too.
Wow, its amazing to hear that from your side, i hope your partner also feel and have a good image of yours..
❤️
:)
Wise words! Thank you for sharing.
My pleasure amy😊
Very thoughtful post! Sorry is sometimes so difficult to say, but if one can, one will feel more serene
Exactly luisa, sorry makes us serene as well free us from all the guilt, and helps in move forward
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Quite an interesting post
thank you navin, hope you have also visited our site,
You're welcome. Oh yeah, I do have.
hope you like it
yes, I do like it :-)
Saying sorry can be very hard, but once said, it lifts a weight from your shoulders. It is so important!
Well said, have you ever try this?
As I don’t have any ego, I say sorry even to a chair when I bump into it.
That’s nice of you , I think you are the favorite person in your surroundings 😊
Great blog… well written..
My pleasure, hope you'll enjoy our other posts too
Have a great day .
Thank you. I certainly have no enemies. But I think your post was great. Saying sorry and making amends is the best way to a peaceful life.
Joanna
Thankyou for the grateful words Joanna, its pleasure to hear that you have no enemies, I love your good behavior and forgiving attitude.
Deepak
Such a great post🌷 Thank you for sharing.
Thankyou Mishkat for your lovely words..Do visit again
I liked this post very much AND i liked all of the comments it inspired. I often think/feel that a hug number of the world’s international challenges are rooted in longstanding (sometimes centuries old…) situations in which people were unable to apologize. Here in the USA we are (yet again) thinking and talking about our country’s 400-year old history of using enslaved people to build wealth for others. We have huge numbers of people who — even if they were not directly involved with horrific lynchings — DID come out (along with the rest of their town, their politicians and even their church communities) to watch someone be killed… So now in the USA we thousands and probably millions of citizens whose parents and grandparents and great-grandparents were involved directly or indirectly with these horrible acts of domestic terrorism against enslaved or formerly enslaved fellow human beings — and very few of us want to think about it, remember it, acknowledge that it happened, empathize with the terror and suffering and pain our families inflicted upon other families, make reparations or apologize… Sincere, vulnerable, heartfelt apologies can be SO POWERFUL and SO IMPORTANT. Thank you for writing and sharing this blog post.
Thank you for the overwhelming words, yes as you said apology is not just a word it is a solution of major issue, whatever happen that time is very sorrowful but a single solution is just asking for an apology. That’s it nothing can be more peaceful and better.
Not only USA, the same acts happens in most of the countries having long and bit dark history.
People are fighting over the past things and most of them don't even what they are fighting for.
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