How to be happy is the top priority of any strugglers nowadays. Everyone is on a hunt for happiness. Someone finds happiness by spending all of his savings on a holiday trip or someone tries to find it by just sleeping on weekends.
But, why we are even looking for happiness? Are these the only things to keep us happy? Why canβt we just create one for us?
I bet this might be the most searched topic on the Internet. We have made our lives so busy & hectic that we forgot how to be happy in our life. I agree, that in this present world if we will not run, probably we will be left behind by others. Also, will get that tag of a loser in othersβ opinions.
A common manβs day starts with checking emails and end up clearing dues. There is always pressure to be better in the workplace to climb the ladder of success. But this race wrench one thing from this precious life of the common man and that is βHappinessβ.
The one thing that sets us in our life is βResponsibilityβ. When you start taking responsibility for your family, friends, and nation β your time for yourself is limited. Often being a responsible person you have to submit yourself to things you donβt love or you started juggling everything from career, family, social life & health.
This often gulps the energy out of you. It is obvious that we cannot dodge our responsibility, but finding a way to be happy along with having responsible is a happy life.
Everyone has their own way to be happy, some find sleeping in their free time is the best solution. While some are fond of movies in their idle time. But I personally believe that these can give you pleasure for a limited duration of time.
Iβm in the prime of my life and believe me Iβve tried so many things just to have that smile on my face at the end of the day.
But one day I realized, that instead of finding I can create happiness for myself. That would be great. In a journey in Pursuit of Happiness, I find these pivotal things.
So, How to find happiness amidst hectic life? The answer lies in these 5 treasures-
The two-letter word βNOβ can put a huge impact on your life. Making a balance between βYESβ and βNOβ makes an equilibrium to see the positive and negative aspects. Saying No might seem rude to friends and can make relationships a bit shakey but it also helps you to stay away from negative people and insignificant things.
Saying NO to the distractions is a much better way for the aspirants to find the path to success. Also, it helps you to take a strong stand against wrongful acts. It finds value for your time which you can use for valuable purposes, for example, you have an important assignment to complete and the deadline is near.
And here your Friends forcing you to join the party but only you know that the assignment is much more important for you. That time a single word NO can help you not only to complete the task but also helps you get rid of the guilt of failure.
Saying NO can help you avoid things that you really donβt want to do and that are irrelevantly putting stress on you and ruining your happiness.
Working all day swallows all the energy from the body. Our mind needs rest and what can be more calming than spending time with family.
This is the best method I apply to keep myself fresh and motivated. Being with loved ones helps me improve mental health and also boosts morale.
I also used to spend time with my pets because their unconditional love makes me smile every time whenever I feel exhausted. Also, gardening gives instant positive vibes and enthusiasm to be mentally prosperous and fresh. Because all these are fractions of my family.
When we are with close ones we share our stories & plights that eventually release stress. Nine-year research found that a social person has more life expectancy than a reserved one. According to the research people with a lack of social connection but a healthy lifestyle live shorter than the social person with an unhealthy lifestyle.
Being surrounded by loved ones drives your inner happiness and also pushes you up in your failure. Also read:- Health benefits spending quality time with family.
It is normal to carry worries, worry regarding our pending work, future, and relationship. But when worrying about small things which are in no control becomes excess, it ends up causing stress and anxiety. That eventually leads to Hypertension, Insomnia & intense headaches.
Worrying about things is good but you must rethink it again- Does it cost you happiness? Is it in control of yours?
Chronic worrying is the cause of GENERALISED ANXIETY DISORDER which means an anxiety disorder that involves tension, nervousness, negativeness, etc.
Gaur Gopal Das has a brilliant explanation of why you shouldnβt worry. He says-
Do you have a problem in life? βNOβ, then Why worry?
Do you have problems in life? βYESβ
Can you do something about it? βYESβ, then Why Worry?
Can you do something about it? βNOβ, then Why Worry?
The core of the above statement Is that if things are in your control then solve them, if not then avoid them. But one thing you must do is STOP Worrying. Worryness overthrew your happiness and made your life miserable.
Reading is a habit that helps in releasing stress and keeps us motivated. But the matter of fact is what we are reading.
It has become difficult to find a time to read but we should make a βME TIMEβ where we have to meditate and read good books like Religious books ( Bhagwat Geeta, Bible, Quran, etc) and anything we like from space, inventions to biographies.
It not only stimulates the mind but is also a source of knowledge and idea that can grow over time within you.
Reading helps you to travel the world and perhaps peopleβs mind around the world. You may stumble upon significant things that can change your life forever. UK Study finds that a person who reads regularly can cope with the situation better than a non-reader and have greater self-esteem, and is more emphatic.
Research also studies that 58% of the UK population read regularly, and for those who read 30 minutes a week, 20% are more likely to be satisfied with their life than non-readers, and 21% less likely to feel depressed.
We are taught from our childhood that we should work hard for achieving our goals. But when things go wrong we became frustrated and spoil our mood and happiness.
We keep searching for success in our life but what is true success? Is having more money without time for oneself success? Or Becoming powerful with always the fear of death is success?
Success has another meaning for happiness- Earning less but living life happier than a person with the bulk of the money is a success. You should do work with strong purposes, and always give priority to building a strong relationship with your spouse, friend, family, and society.
Focusing on priorities also gives a sense of accomplishment throughout hard times. So you must know what is important to you and not just what is urgent to you.
With full of responsibility, career, the family sometimes make me frustrated. It is human nature to react when things not going according to the plans. At that time I try to maintain calmness in my mind and look toward God. I believe in spirituality which always fills me up with positive vibes.
One thing I always try in my life is to stop overthinking or worrying. And to maintain a balance in this, I never expect too much from others. Also writing is a way that works for me whenever I want to share my experience and perspectives when someone is not around.
A stoic philosopher Epictetus said, βThere is only a way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of your willβ. I hold a strong presumption for it.
I never take up more than what my plate can hold. This means I always focus on things that I can do happily not forcefully.
Happiness can be found within you, not in your destination.
Not allow a single moment to ruin your happiness. There will be days when you will fail, feel depressed, and things get dark but it is what it is. This is life what do you expect? Be a happy survivor.
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True, really nice....πππ€©π
Thankyou π
Oh, that was a wonderful post...I liked it...
The key to happiness...you have unlocked it beautifullyβπ»ππ»ππ»
Thankyou
How do you find happiness in your life? Would love to know other's perspectives
I'm always finds happiness inside me and also the things surrounded with me..As you mentioned sometimes we can find temporary relaxation through loving what I do..It's completely a state of mind, I mostly prefer peace more than happiness..
Moreover, I love to spend my time with my parents, my job then dancing, exchanging thoughts, writing, blogging, reading, drawing and so on..
Wow! Its amazing to see how you manage all these.
Good to see you enjoy your time this way
As always, I agree with many points of your excellent post.
Thank you.
Joanna
Thank you Joanna, thatβs really means a lot to me.
actually happiness is an open palace..but we ourselves lock it ofter n then crib finding its key .
life is very simple but it is very difficult to keep it so!
great postβ€π―
Great words, as I said happiness can be found within you and how you see things around you. That will make journey easy and simple.
Thank for your appreciation π
and that why worry part is absolutely trueβπ―
Woah, I agree with every single point in this article! You may be right that this could be one of the most searched topics on Google.
No is a complete sentence and spending time with family, pets and doing things we like can really make a HUUUGE difference. Well-done with this article! π
Thankyou for your kind words. Yes,its true that a single NO can find a way to be happy and prosperous.
Hope you also find happiness by spending time with family.π
Happiness can be found with in you, not in your destination. This sentence from your blog post has a lot of wisdom. Its really an interesting post :)
Indeed its on us how we maintain us to be happy.
I am glad you feel it valuable.
Yes happiness depends on us π
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This is outstanding, I am happy I read this :-)
Thank you π
I think everyone was searching answer to this question for so long including me and finally I got the most satisfying answer. Thanku so much . I will definitely try to follow it π
It's a great moment for me that this post is helping you in finding a way of happiness.
May Have a happy life to youπ
Thank you
You covered a lot of ways to focus on happiness
but with what's going on in the world today it's
not that easy as it should be anymore sad to say.
But I admire the blog you wrote on how to TRY
& find happiness somewhere in our lives & as
hard as it is these days some do their best at it.
Well said, finding happiness becomes tough when you have a lot to do our your daily basis. Also, it's is possible when you are self-satisfied with your work and life.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.π have a happy life.
"itβs is possible when you are self-satisfied with your work and life."
Sometimes a simple life is work in progress as I have been told
it's what we do with the life that God gave us all to prosper from
"go forth & multi" but (BUT) look where we are today in life ?
I'm in my mid 60's & have been around a few years ha ha ha
I tell no lie, I've learned how to do the best you can with what
you have, learning on your own or find a way to make due.
God above is what guide's me to do what needs to be done
or shows me things in how to be on top of things B-4 hand
life came with a manual called the holy bible, good book.
Great to hear that you are satisfied with your life.
Religious books will provide you with full of enthusiasm and a constructive mind which will never let you down in your life.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. God bless you and have a healthy lifeπ
I use to read back in the day, but
I watch inspirational videos to boost
me up instead reading of puts me to sleep.
Not necessary... happiness is possible even if every situation is going against you.. Solution is.... get up in the morning, play your favourite song, dance and feel yourself smiling. Music and smile does wonders.
Wow, its a good idea! Surely i am gonna try .
It always works for me. I hope it works for you too.π
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Music and smile does wonders. I definitely agree. π
Thank you π
Thought-provoking post! Lots of good advice. <3 Finding balance in life is a lifelong effort, Depak, but following the suggestions in this post can make it more achievable.
Thankyou for your appreciation. And Iβm sure I will make it achievable π
βHappiness is not the goal in life; happiness is a by-product of living out your purpose.β (Rick Warren)
If it is the goal, it will prove amazingly elusive. Live with purpose; live to help others.
The happiness might come, but even if it doesn't, YOU will have been a better person. π
Well said, happiness is living with purpose of life. Finding a purpose make your life valuable and prosperous.
Thankyou π
Hmm, not sure about the βprosperousβ part. Many people with profound purpose and great joy even faced persecution and death because of faithfully living with purpose.
Certainly, a life with purpose makes that life valuable. π
Indeed, I got your point.π
Beautiful pieceππΏππΏππΏππΏ
Thank you.
Thankyou π
saying no to what you don't want so you can say yes to what you do want is so important!πππ
God gave every living thing to be enjoyed & happy & enjoy the things he
put on the earth to use in some way to benefit from it & it's all
destroyed by man & nature, if you believe in the holy place above
"saying no to what you donβt want so you can say yes to
what you do want is so important!" I agree a 100%.
This is so true and so glad to hear your wonderful faith in action! π
I agree with your point.
Thank you π
Big hugs and love β€οΈπ
π stay safe & stay alert, don't let your guard down
keep shining.
Thank youπ
Thank you for the post, Deepak.
It highlights the points where I'm lacking. Sure I'll work on them.
What about your studies? How do you manage blog and studies?
I always try to make a balance between my studies and blogging. Being stuck with my routine helps me to supervise time management because I think time management is the key to do the task efficiently.
Thank you hope this will help you.
Wise advice. <3
Thankyou Ma'am π
I think I'm doing none of the five steps. And my husband is getting NO sleeping due to preoccupation constantly. I hope you're doing better than we are, lol !!
Well to be honest it's tough to follow all 5 steps but I try to follow most of them. And as I said happiness is inside you, if you are satisfied with your life, that's happiness.
Thank you
Wow Deepak... your post is definitely awesome as always. Whenever I read your opinions, it feels like I can completely relate it to myself.
And what I have learnt from my life is happiness is in everything.. seeing your family smiling, rainfall with pakoda and Tea, jumping in puddles like kids, making paper boats and planes, chatting with old time friends, dancing and singing out loud, .... and everything that makes you feel the best of you and when you forget your worries even if for a moment.
Yes, we can say that our childhood is the best time where we seems always happy. Because we have nothing to do with world or we are not able to listen the outer world.
Happiness is inside you, you just have to look at within you.
Thankyou for your overwhelming appreciation .
Childhood is indeed the best time. But when you feel like a child from heart even though you are 100 years old, each moment that you live is the best time of your life.π
Wow a real need of an hour.. My mom says all of these to me...
It's good to hear that your mom and my thought are the same. Thankyou π