When it feels scary to jump, thatβs exactly where you jump. Thatβs how you move forward conquering the fear you have been carrying for ages. The same goes when you choose to go for something new in your life.
We, humans, are beings of habits. We choose to find comfort in every possible situation we are currently in. Despite being lazy we adore the adventure of finding something more, starting something new that is missing in our present.
But that feeling and dynamism are naturally accompanied by fear, vulnerability, and uncertainties. Anytime you start something new, thereβs always a level of vulnerability with it because you are representing yourself to the world and you can be judged so easily, especially if that thing is somewhat unique and related to creativity that hasnβt been done before.
We are all dreamers. We long to know what is just around the next bend. We constantly strive for freshness from our groundhog days. We love thinking about the infinite things we can do with our life. But woefully that is immediately crushed by our fear.
In scientific terms, it might be Neophobia, which is the fear of new things. Or, it might be the fear of expectations, when your expectations with you clash with your imaginary worldβs expectations.
But thatβs a false expectation because the world doesnβt know what youβre going to do.
Regardless of age, that fear can have a serious impact on your daily life. The life-changing decisions are adversely impacted. To truly succeed or fail, it is necessary to take a risk. The refusal to give you a chance to do something different or to try something new or just present your idea or whatever is the refusal to take that one crucial step.
What happens when you start something new? You possibly have a lot of questions about what youβre going to do and what others will think about it. Right?
What do you suppose the world wants? A uniqueness? A brilliant idea? Think like this, if itβs coming from you, itβs already unique. There might be some unique ideas seated deeply inside you that you have been thinking about constantly but keep postponing, never executing, and working on.
And you keep sticking with your everyday life which is kinda boring as your daily routines remain uninterrupted for several weeks and days, which makes you even more stressed.
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So, it would be better if you execute what youβve been thinking for a while now.
Variation is what you need to keep exploring more of yourself. Who knows the best of you is yet to come, but you are completely unaware blindfolded by fear, and ignore the possibilities of what the future holds.
You often hear and that is what people say in general, βHey! Donβt lose hope, you definitely have some hidden talents that you must recognizeβ and other things like βYou must do self-analysis and should know your potentialβ
It sounds super motivating. But on the flip side, some questions remained unanswered- How are we supposed to know our hidden talent? How to identify and pull out those inner features?
The finest answer lies in starting something new and trying different. Thatβs how youβll find what you can do much more easily and happily. If you cease yourself with an excuse that you donβt belong here because you have never been here, you are not doing justice to yourself.
Your first step convinces you to take the second step and then the second to the third step and this goes on and on.
If that βhidden talentβ doesnβt come out easily, you need to figure it out. As it is said, straightforwardness with straightforwardness, crookedness with crookedness.
Surprisingly most people have experienced the feeling of self-doubt, the feeling that they are here on this level just because of that dumb luck.
Impostor syndrome or what psychologists often call the Impostor phenomenon, is the feeling in which you doubt your skills and have an inner experience that you are not as good & competent as others are. The idea that youβve only succeeded due to luck, and not because of your talent or qualifications.
These thoughts also stop you take new steps.
We live the possibility of success to others because we donβt seem to ourselves to be competitive and deserving with people around us. We are quickly convinced that we are nothing but Impostors.
Itβs like we see our bloopers reel and othersβ highlights reel.
It prevents you from trying something new in your daily life since it feels easier, simply not to try.
Though I agree, trying something different requires a bit of courage and a bit of luck. You might have questions and some agitation that try to manipulate your mind to call it a day. But as I said that the first step you take, convinces the second step.
Itβs like trial and error. You may fail several times but at least youβll find that comfort you are missing presently.
No doubt life is messed up and gets even more complicated at the worst of times, but it doesnβt mean you simply get yourself lost in the wide opening, keep trying different aspects, itβs the only way.
Itβs the only way to make every new year a special one.
So, What do you think? Is there anything that youβve been thinking to do for a while but unfortunately keep postponing? Let us know down below.
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An interesting point, well written, but I don't have this problem.
Thank you.
Joanna
Thank-you Joanna,
Great you don't have this kind of issues taking new steps.
It make sense to start something βnewβ. Maybe, a new idea, habit, learning or so.
I would like to write guest posts for you. Have a great day. π
Thank-you Lokesh.
Take your time and then go for guest blogging. It would be great to have you.
I can definitely relate to everything you discussed here. I've been through it all and it is not the easiest to overcome, but oh so worth the effort and risk when you finally do.
Its natural to have some agitation while making a change.
But once you started you'll see it isn't that frightening as you were thinking.
Absolutely π
Amazing post you highlighted the reality and I would love to mention that changes can create either threat or opportunity based upon our actions.πππππ
Absolutely, if there's a level of threat then there is certain level of opportunities too.
Taking risks is therefore something we constantly do.
Its upto you, you're risk taker or not.
Yes true indeed. Everything depend upon usππ
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Wow. That's such an interesting take, never looked at starting something new this way. For me, it comes with a lot of fear and tiny bit of excitement :(
Thankyou,
You're right, starting something new always accompanied by certain level of fear and excitements.
Sometimes it also depends on the bit of luck.
But this is what we generally do in our life. Life is uncertain.
You never know what's around the next bend.
I agree that starting something new is hard. You are setting yourself up for failure or success, and both of them can be un-settling. In the past I have not done well starting something new, but lately, I am getting a little brave enough to put myself out there and face the criticism. And learn to live with sweating buckets doing something new and different.
You're right, they do are unsettling.
You can't anticipate where it will take.
We can only learn to live with that and face the uncertainty.
The right and wrong shows up when you start walking.
Yes, changes are necessary and we shouldn't be hesitant for it at first.
Would love to do a guest post on your Blog, it would be an honour!
Changes in the sense that you are exploring more of yourself and adding that to your experience, skills & knowledge.
And Thankyou Ashish for considering guest post, it would be great for us too.
Yes, absolutely!
Yes, that would be my pleasure. Is there any format or any word limitations/topics?
Thanks Ashish.
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Everything is mentioned there.
Let us know, if you have any other questions.
Great Ritish!!
Thankyou Monalisa.
Wondering, Is that what your name?
Yes, my name is Monalisa
Alright! That is such a nice name
Thanks Ritish
Thanks. Will have a look and submit as and when i complete my writing! Thanks for the opportunity π
Anytime. Will happy to do that.
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Great Post Ritish! we have to do it anyway and take the fear with us. It's a given, we're going to be a little scared... it's usually when I know I'm on the right path/ πππ
True words Cindy. π
We can't eliminate uncertainties but it doesn't mean we don't walk at all.
Yes, well you said it best! soooo true!!!π
Thank-you again, Cindy
Have a great week
Thanks my friend u2
yep and keep on truckin we doπ
A wonderfully encouraging post, Deepak! Most of us lead "ordinary" lives. We will not conquer the world. But God put us each here w/ a purpose. We are each unique, each gifted w/ talents to be used for good. That can make all the difference. <3
Well said Anna, we all have a unique characteristic and throug this, we can bring a bit of change to the world. However, the matter is we have to self inspect this quality and work on it.
Thank you maβam.
It's a conundrum, of which I am in denial. Not Murph, he is completely confident & natural. : ) This post is very targeting.
These kinds of questions often seems paradox, depending on the Perspectives and circumstances.
And good to see Murph in confident. Give him my high five.
As you age, it is important to keep learning and doing new things.
Absolutely.
Thank-you for these encouraging words.
often we run away from change a lot...bcoz we are at peace with our position , our comfort zone now....n we dont want to open and broaden up our mind and thinking in order to adapt to those changes!
That's true. Its a personal choice. But even if we find that comfort than as per human nature we still look for some more adventure and certain things that are missing in our present.
yeah...quite a subjective thing!
Yes, it heavily depends on the life situations.
When you try something new, fears definitely come in. This is a really nice post. I loved it.ππ
They obviously do.
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The very first step π₯Ί...i can relate with that
Thanks, Ashish. We do hope you'll succeed in all your endeavours. Just don't limit your expectation to fit into the world. π
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Great post.
It's definitely more difficult than scary for me, just because I'm so frigging lazy! lol
Change can be scary, but it's also exciting! And hey, if laziness is your biggest obstacle, then you're already halfway there (kidding). Keep on going, and remember to take care of yourself along the way.
Great post, Ritish, I love this line, "Itβs like we see our bloopers reel and othersβ highlights reel." Right!!
Thanks Wynne for checking out this post.
Thank you π