βPatience is the key to successβ, and βHave Patience! Everything will be alrightβ. These are the two most uttered phrases that we always heard, whenever we are anxious about something. Having patience means being able to wait calmly in the face of frustration or adversity inside you.
But, now letβs do a simple task, search for five people nearby you who are not anxious or in any serious trouble but living a balanced life. Seems hard?
You will barely find a person in your surroundings who can say that he/she is fully satisfied with what they have. Because finding someone like that is getting blood out of stone. Everyone has their own setbacks and needs more in life which is obvious, I mean, who doesnβt? But I find that the most troubled ones are teenagers who have lost their happiness in this advanced technology world.
The pressure of study, assignments, examinations, love life and the thrust of always looking better in the field have ruined their patience.
They donβt seem to settle and trust their capabilities. The envy of what others have and why donβt I are putting them into a loop of chasing where there is no such thing as βPatienceβ.
Even adults are now the most anxious ones in our surroundings. Their struggle to get a decent job, the stress of less salary, the pressure of getting married, family, inflation, and other societal pressures and materialistic things are completely testing their patience.
However, one age group that seems to be calmer and humble over tough situations is our senior citizens. The reason for their calmness is their experience to tackle situations throughout their life.
Another example of having patience is whenever we are in the exam hall invigilator always uttered looking at our nervous faces that βtake your timeβ. They used to utter these words repeatedly so that we could focus on the present and might not get distracted. But often we assume it is wrong and wasted our time in the examination hall.
According to Cambridge, Patience is defined as the ability to wait or to continue doing something despite difficulties, or to suffer without complaining about becoming annoyed, where any person would have experienced these emotions.
Patience helps us in direct control of ourselves. Patient people have a great sense of gratitude and improve their ability to accept disappointments and regain the motivation to become successful people. It helps in building confidence, perseverance, and a positive viewpoint on life.
Patience and wasting time are two different concepts, most people assume having patience means leaving things over destiny and seating quietly. Everyone faces failures in their life whether it is Elon Musk who failed multiple times in his life before becoming the richest person in the world and Zack Ma who was rejected in 25 interviews before incorporating Ali Baba.
One thing you will see common in successful people is that they always work hard in their life and they never lose their patience. They never sit quietly instead they work on their failure and continue their work by keeping serenity.
Often patience is misunderstood as wasting time as in both you are taking a moment of pause. However, if you try to understand, youβll find that thereβs a huge difference between the two. Patience means sharing some tender moments and not feeling rushed or pressured. On the other hand, wasting time is just about taking the pressure later on.
Being patient means you are waiting for your turn to come and wasting time means you are letting your turn go in vain.
A patient person is dynamic and knows exactly what he is doing and what it can lead to. But the people who think wasting time is the same as being patient are often stuck in the loop of finding, getting rejected, and thus hopeless.
Itβs a human tendency that we want everything to be done in an instant. We have become more dependent on gadgets and instruments, which have made our life easy and reliable. But itβs also ruining our patience, for instance- when we order some food and itβs getting late in delivery at our door, we often become seem to be abusive towards the delivery man. We even do not bother ourselves to ask him why he got late to find a reason.
The Internet has made our life easy, we can send any message to our loved ones in a second. Also, we can watch whatever happening in the world just by sitting in our place. But what if the WI-FI doesnβt work for like an hour? I know you donβt want to imagine because it will still make you anxious. But, itβs hard to hear the truth. Our dependency has become so enormous that we just couldnβt live without it even for a while.
Stanford Marshmallow Experiment was conducted by psychologist Walter Mischel professor at Stanford University. He tested this on children around 4-5 years old by offering them marshmallows on the table but under one condition.
His condition was that they can not eat the marshmallows while they were away. If they succeed to do so then they will be awarded a second marshmallow. The condition was like βone treat right now or two treats laterβ.
Some of them ate the first marshmallow as soon as the researcher left the room but some managed to wait for the entire time. It was published in 1972 and is known as β The Marshmallow Experiment.
Later researchers follow the studies and track each childβs progress which was known as the power of delayed gratification. They found that the children who have delayed enjoyment and waited for an award ended up having high social status and better responses to stress and better life measures. The research found that ability to control and have patience in life is essential for becoming a successful person. Must read:- Standford Marshmallow Experiment.
As I said in the first para that having patience means being able to wait calmly in the face of frustration, so anywhere there is frustration or adversity, we have the opportunity to practice it.Β
Patience helps you in building smart decision-making. It improves your thought process and keeps you out of negative aspects which might fall you down. It helps us to remain calm and positive most of the time so that we could focus more on ourselves. Forbearance helps in remaining in the present moment without thinking about our past.
Patience helps you in increasing your strength and makes you an optimist. It helps us in fighting the situation courageously instead of worrying. It makes you strong not from the outside but on the inside. You can better at being patient
It helps us to remain happy in our life. Patience helps us focus on the things which are in the present rather than crying about the things which are out of our control. Baylor University psychologist found that βPeople who are more patient also tend to be more hopeful and satisfied with their lives. They are less likely to be stressed or depressed or experience health issuesβ.
Iβm practicing patience for over several years now, and I must say that it gives me a whole other perspective and courage to deal with the situation. Now I reframe my thinking about given circumstances. I try to put myself in othersβ shoes or situations before judging and concluding my decision.
Patience is a skill that teaches you how to be calm in the face of a frustrating situation. It makes you stronger whenever you learn to sustain your emotions. Patience is a virtue for success, those who learn to control it reward them as success in return.
So, what do you think about being patient? Let me know down here.
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This ever impatient soul thanks you for this reminder.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud." - 1 Corinthians 13:4 NIV
Easier to say than to practice, but the blessings are reciprocal.
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Wow a very detailed explanation. Learnt to be patient to read the full Blog. Was very interesting one and especially loved the having patience vs wasting time part. ππ
Thank you for your kind words Ashish.
My pleasure!
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Well said, Patience is the key to solve any problem.
Very well put together article and well written as usual brother Deepak. I am 70 now and you are correct that older people are more patient. I was certainly not born patient. It is a "skill" that has to be learned. However, the sooner you learn it the sooner your life will become "a life well lived." We want and need the basic comforts in life, but I've met very few wealthy people that were happy. They always want more. They want more money, or fame, or power, or all of those.
In the end, there is nothing wrong with self-improvement, but I have sat at the death bed of many, and not once have I ever heard them say "I wish I had more money" or "I wish I had spent more time working."
It's almost always, "I wish I had could have spent more time with my family"
Thank you for your kind words Dennis. You are much more elder and have much more experience than me in life. You have seen life closely and I can't give you any suggestions but it's life and it's a hard truth that some of our wishes remain unfulfilled. Because if everything will be fulfilled then what will we desire for.
We have learned many thing from you my friend keep supporting us always.
Stay fit and have a healthy life.
Such a great post!!
Patience is a virtue amidst the agony of waiting-:)π€£
Thank you Cindy π.
Waiting is also art, not everyone is an expert on it.π
You're so welcome.
Thanks so true Deepak.
I'm better at it some days than others.. π
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As I have grown older, Depak, I find that I am less patient with some things, but more patient with others. This is a great post on patience! I am reminded that "patience is a virtue." <3
Thank you Cheryl, Patience is something which makes us stronger and help to work efficiently.
Thank you. My life has proven to me that without faith and GOD in your life and living it is impossible to live patiently and well in this troubled societally screwed up world. We all young, old, black, white, challenged by any limitations etc need to find our way to the path lit by the LIGHT of the Divine One in whom patience forgiveness and mercy are all wrapped up in HIS Spirit. Blessings on you and all who keep looking upwards and searching. May you too FIND.
Indeed, belief in God always provides us positive energy which helps us to calm in tough situations. Patience is something which helps me to find the path whenever I get stuck in trouble situations.
Thank you for enlightening us and supporting us.
Patience in everything π―
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this is beautiful! thanks for sharing :)
Thanks for your appreciation βΊοΈ